January 28, 2024

⚡Dispatch 05 - Closing Time: 3, 2, 1

Yo Stoked Dad,

May your Sunday be everything you need it to be.

  1. The week was a good reminder that I have work do on my “inner citadel”, as Marcus Aurelius calls it. That inner solitude where I can retreat when things feel overwhelming. It’s felt a little cramped in our house of late. There are few places where I can be alone and have quiet. The point of the inner citadel is that no matter what swirls around us, we can retreat inward, find stillness, and face the chaos.
  2. I hope I always make a big deal of anything Hannah makes me: a card, painting, or even a fake sandwich. She gets so stoked when I excitedly receive whatever it is she’s handing me. It may be a fake sandwich but I hope the girls know it’s the best damn fake sandwich ever made.
  3. If you’ve been a pub or bar around closing or you remember the late 90’s - you’ve heard the song “Closing Time” by Semisonic. The song isn’t just about getting kicked out of a closing bar: it’s about life, birth, and the song writer’s premature daughter. Reading about that hit me a little, with our littlest spending time in the NICU as well. The lyric “I know who I want to take me home” was written from the POV of his daughter wanting to leave the hospital. Tear inducing. - shoutout to my friend Tregg for sending this story my way.

“It is possible - no, entirely too common -for a person who has had a long life to have lived too little.”


I’ve been on the hunt for a new dad backpack. One I can travel with, load all the kid stuff x2, and not look like a goober. This thread from Jeff Sheldon of Ugmonk (incidentally the greatest desk gear ever) is gold for that search. I ended up getting a Peak Design pack, and I'm stoked to test it out.

Be stoked my friend,


P.S. - I’m focused on getting better and growing a stoked dad community with each dispatch. If you liked these, it would mean a ton if you shared it with someone else. I’m also revamping my blogging site to archive each week of these - it’s coming soon.